The Dating Cold War

 

 

I'm a 38 year old guy at the time of this writing. I have been through the mud 1000x over dating in this past decade. I am CERTAIN, beyond the shadow of a doubt, if you have been in the dating pool at any point in time over the past ten years, this will resonate with you...LOUDLY. What I am about to set fourth to you is merely an observation that I have had. A guy on the internet just pointing shit out. Putting  some context there and calling you all's attention to the fact that a cold war has been raging, for a long time now at that.

Perhaps this is a challenge for you too, should you dislike the present state of things out there in the dating sphere. Maybe you are ready to put down the guns, stop the madness, and call an end to the dating cold war between men and women that has been roaring on? Out of control. Colder and colder every year. Who knows where it will end? I dunno, I imagine at some point humans will just cease being in committed relationships all together? They do say some advanced societies operate this way, but is that what you really want? Are we there yet? Is that what you truly desire deep down? Maybe it is? Maybe it isn't?

Scarcity Peddlers?

Ah, scarcity peddlers. Sleazy salesmen. Snake oil merchants. Known by many names, but all share similar reasons as to why they act as they do. These types need be identified and approached with a weary caution in life. This article dovetails appropriately into the abundance mindset concept that we have discussed previously. Anyone that is trying to CONVINCE you that something is scarce in life may have ulterior motives, or perhaps not quite be what they say they are or actually have to offer what they say they do. If you find this to be the case in any of your dealings, you need to learn to move around them if necessary, or at least handle them appropriately.

Speculation Food = Stress

 

Most unfortunately, I straight up come from a family of worriers. I love my family dearly, but God damn, this has surely caused some substantial stresses and unnecessary anguish for all involved over the years. Like all experiences in life however, these negative attributes have taught me some very big lessons. I'm going to make a case to you today as to why you should abstain from giving people what I call "food for speculation". This does two very important things. It reduces stress for these types of people plagued with overactive and worrisome minds, and in turn, it reduces your stress level in not having to deal with their gyrations.

So what is "food for speculation"? Well, anything that is not a hard fact is in my brain some form of mind food that someone else can consume and react to in many different ways, often adversely. Why is is this? Facts are definitive. Indisputable. The hard and real. Something that can actually be processed and dealt with accordingly due to it's nature of truth. Think of a calculator. If you give it actual numbers, it can derive meaningful data. On the other hand, we have this "mind food" that I speak of. Things that are not defined. To be determined. The what-ifs in life. The unknown nature of a statement. To the worrisome individual, this is the launch point for their brains to think up all sorts of wacky possibilities of what this might equate to. Think of the calculator again, if you don't give it good numbers to crunch, the thing doesn't know what to do. It starts smoking. It can't figure out shit. It melts down on the inside. That's how people with worrisome natures go through life.

The Rebuttal for Haters

 

One aspect of life I've always found it hard to combat is dealing with haters. I don't care who you are, where you are, and what you are doing with your life, you are gonna cross paths with haters. Unfortunately, you will continue to have run ins with them the rest of your time on the Earth. Yes it sucks, but that's just the way this rock operates. So, it behooves you to do at least a little bit of mental fortification at some point so you can thwart these haters with ease. 

This article piggy-backs on the last one that I wrote in the sense that I am mostly making the focus on these times in our lives when we get people hating on us for pursuing our passions. You don't have to be an A list celebrity either. Every person at some point in their lives, no matter how big or how small their pursuits, will catch heat from assholes with nothing better to do with their time than to throw hate your way. Judgements, ridicule, humiliation, banter, etc. All these little things, you will see and hear this hate at some point when you are out there working on your passions.

Passion Judgers

 

We have all been given them. These little deep rooted seeds that were bestowed upon us at some point in life. Maybe we are born with them inside of us? Maybe they miraculously spawn inside of us during our days spent on the Earth? Who knows. But there is one thing that I am certain of, we all have some form of these inside of us. Whether or not we choose to acknowledge them, that's another story and some food for thought also. Maybe this article will nudge you into exploration mode? I hope, especially if you feel like you've been hampered by those around you...

Whatever the case may be, what I am talking about here are your passions in life. Those little seeds of amazing that were given to you so that you might examine, explore, cultivate, bask in the enjoyment of and allow to radiate out into the world around you. I'll say that again, YOU WERE MEANT to share your passions with the world, whatever they might be.