First Date Standards

 

Getting to know a new person is an interesting process. What a weird time. The first date in particular hopefully is casual and low intensity. Keeps the pressure off of both parties. Something easy should be in order the first time you meet someone under romantic pretenses. In the spirit of just that notion, I hope what I'm about to talk about resonates with you guys out there.

I used to not pay much regard to this principle, but at this point in life the character analysis starts before I even show up in person on a 1st date. Furthermore, I've adopted some personal 1st date standards that I don't break, and hope that you would too at some point. You can do whatever you want, but I feel like at some juncture in your life any rational man would arrive at these same conclusions. Of course, this will probably come after years of bullshit and countless hours and dollars wasted away. Flushed down the toilet. Might as well have not ever happened. Yeah, that sucks. I can tell you this first hand.

How to Never Get Rejected Again

 

Gee, wouldn't that be nice? Never getting rejected by a woman ever again? Well, that's a pretty tall claim, but what I will guarantee you is this, you'll rarely get rejected if you listen and apply what I'm saying here.

I wrote an article previously talking about "cold approaching" women. This is in specific reference to that. HERE I've got no show stoppers for you here. No magical potion. No mind tricks for you to play. No, life does not work that way, and certainly the love game does not. Here's the deal guys of how to make this so:

The Motivation Barometer

 

We all experience periods of wavering motivation to do things in life. That, I believe is not always attributed to plain laziness, but something more. Something very important that I feel you should tune in to and perhaps alter your life based upon.

In my opinion, your motivation, or lack there of, is a direct reflection of your level of passion that you have for something. If you get up in the morning and have a dread to do something, this is a VERY big indicator that you no longer have the love for doing this act, whatever it might be. Think about it, if you truly enjoyed something with all your heart, you'd almost go to bed eager to wake up as early in the morning to get back to doing that thing, whatever it is. Like that feeling on Christmas Eve. You just could not wait to get up in the morning, you were so excited.

The Succulent Salesman

 

One of THE MOST important mindsets that you will need to develop in life is the ABUNDANCE mindset. That is, the deep acknowledgement and acceptance of the fact that we live in a world of abundance which exists in an infinite universe, one that has no end, and furthermore offers abundance in every form imaginable. Beyond your widest dreams you might say. Limitless abundance, all just there...for you.

As it relates to us humans here on Earth, you need to start looking at EVERYTHING through an eye of abundance. In every aspect of your life, you need to always remember that abundance exists. As you go through life, the manner at which you approach your jobs, your friends, your lovers, your everything gets handled very differently depending on where your mindset is as it relates to this abundance.

Your Inner Being is Pissed

It is my belief that we have a duality about the true nature of what each and every one of us is as a being. We have the external, physical, tangible, machine body that we walk amongst the masses with here on Earth. Then we have the internal, the soul, the essence of who you REALLY are. Your inner being. Your spiritual self if you are comfortable thinking on those terms. If not, well, how about you just call him/her the "voice inside your head" if you feel better about it. Your intuitions. Your instincts. Whatever you want to call it, that's fine, but it's all the same at the end of the day.

Whatever the case, some truths hold themselves evident. NOBODY knows you better than your inner being...nobody. Your inner being knows right from wrong. And your inner being ALWAYS has your best interests in mind. These are facts.

The Intermediary Periods

 

The "intermediary periods" in life? What the hell are those? Well, those are the time periods where 90% of your life occurs. You know, all that yardage in between the goal posts you've set up for yourself.

Life just sucks until your next vacation, huh? You can't do this that or the other until you land that new job? You are waiting for just the right time to do_____. Wtf is wrong with you? Your life exists in the NOW. Do it now. What are you waiting for? You're just gonna squander all this time you've been given until (insert whatever lame excuse you've got here)?

The Grandeur of it All

We all have those periods in life where we feel consumed. Stress, anxiety, emotional storming. These things all add up and certainly put a heavy weight on our souls. I think the thing that most of us would agree on is the sad fact that MOST of the time the sorts of things that are triggering this negativity to occur don't mean jack shit in the grand scheme of things. 

 I have found it helpful to have small mechanisms to serve as a mental/emotional levelers, or more specifically to remind us of this reality that in the great, grand, humongous universe that we live in, your woes are insignificant. 

The Dignity Exchange

Something we all deal with in life is the element of dignity exchange. This exchange occurs in many settings, but in my mind this bears particular pertinence in the matters of our professional life, and the relations that we have with our peers, both romantically and in the instance of friendships or family ties. At times we find ourselves exchanging a piece of our dignity to get what we want.

The internet will tell you what you want to hear...learn to listen to your within

 

I think there was a point in time where the internet might have actually had some more focused and expert advice on it. Or at least maybe it was easier to sift and navigate your way to the best answers. So much has changed though. The internet is littered with such a range of intelligence these days. Just roll with me here, the message of this article is something more. 

So many times, we go to the internet to try and find answers to our questions, expertise to guide us, or whatever under the sun that we are desiring to know. Of course we would, it's so easy. The internet does connect us instantly to billions of other minds in the snap of a finger. Surely there is some good in this. I'm not denying that. But you've got to be careful, right? 

The RIGHT mindset when you "cold approach" a woman...

Ah, the cold approach. One of the most challenging and nerve wracking things for us males to do. To walk up to a complete stranger and engage them in hopes for some meaningful moments that can translate into further contact and perhaps one day long down the line a substantive relationship. What a heavy thing to face. And needless to say, these things would be easy to do if success were a guarantee, but as we all well know, it is NOT. Furthermore, we know in the back of our minds how painful rejection can be. All these elements lead up to an intensive mental battle that must be overcome if we are to make the cold approach in the first place and execute it smoothly and present ourselves as best as we possibly can in this very awkward moment. After all, no matter how much that other person might be feeling you and no matter how well you present, the shit is just awkward. There's no two ways about it.