Getting to know a new person is an interesting process. What a weird time. The first date in particular hopefully is casual and low intensity. Keeps the pressure off of both parties. Something easy should be in order the first time you meet someone under romantic pretenses. In the spirit of just that notion, I hope what I'm about to talk about resonates with you guys out there.
I used to not pay much regard to this principle, but at this point in life the character analysis starts before I even show up in person on a 1st date. Furthermore, I've adopted some personal 1st date standards that I don't break, and hope that you would too at some point. You can do whatever you want, but I feel like at some juncture in your life any rational man would arrive at these same conclusions. Of course, this will probably come after years of bullshit and countless hours and dollars wasted away. Flushed down the toilet. Might as well have not ever happened. Yeah, that sucks. I can tell you this first hand.