Life isn't exactly fair for most guys in the online dating realm. Let's just be real, the playing field will NEVER be level in the sense that girls who date online will always have way more guys hitting them up than guys have girls hitting them up. It's just the way the numbers are. Deal with it.
What I am about to share with you is just one approach you can take to prevent burn out, frustration, and disappointments when it comes to your online dating. If you are reading this article you have probably already wasted countless hours of your life with online dating. Stop doing that. You need to get more efficient at this because, hopefully, you've got way more important shit in your life to be doing.
There is no magic trick here. No foolery, no "hack" that I can teach you to make magic happen between you and any of these ladies online.
ALL that this is, is a strategy to more efficiently find your way to the women only who ACTUALLY want to talk to you. You know, the ones you should be spending your time on because shit actually might go somewhere? Think of this like a sales funnel. You cast a wide net, you narrow down the intake, and you get meaningful output from a small minority. That small minority are the ones that you actually want to focus on. Don't bother wasting your time on the ones who never even enter the funnel at all.
This strategy REQUIRES discipline. Here's some rules you must follow if you want what I am describing here:
#1 - Your MAIN platforms will be platforms like Bumble and Hinge. Your tier 1. Why is that? Two things, they both have VERY wide user counts, and most importantly, they both REQUIRE the female to take some initial actions to let you know that she's interested in actually talking to you. First she had to swipe you right, then she had to message you if we are talking Bumble. On Hinge, she either had to send you a like/comment, or make a response to your like/comment before you can open dialogue. Big help for you. What a concept. Narrows things down quite a bit right off the bat, doesn't it?
#2 - You will pick ONE DAY PER WEEK for "swiping". Yes you read that right, one day loser. Get busy with your REAL life. Stop spending every free second you've got in your day to hop on these apps and swipe a few girls or shop profiles. You're wasting your God damned time. The MAJOR advantage of doing this is that it creates a BACKLOG. I have experienced and tested this theory. Both these apps seem to behave in the same way. If you've got a backlog of girls who have matched with you over the course of the week, the apps seem to present these to you 1st when you get back online. It makes you feel good that you hit a handful of matches each week as opposed to the daily depression of no match, no match, no match. And yes, WOW, how novel, another means of using this funnel concept. The girls that actually are interested in you pop right up now. Try this if you don't believe me. My day is Sunday. "Swipin' Sunday" I call it.
#3 - Tier 2 operations. Think of this like the strategy you implore when you go fishing. What do you do? You bait your hook, or trot line might be a better analogy, as best as you possibly can. You find that spot in the lake where you are feeling most lucky. You throw the line out. And...you WAIT. You wander off. Go drink some beers. Barbecue something. Take a leak on some trees. Smoke a cigar. Hours later, you come back. Would you look at that! A couple fish are floppin' around out there! Reel 'em in! This is the exact SAME way that you should look at all your other profiles. Match, POF, OKC, Eharmony. Whatever your jam is. But these are the more traditional "non swiping" formatted platforms that I am talking about here. The ones where you've gotta send out messages in the BLIND to HOPE that "your highness" gives you the time of day. 99% of the time, you know damn well these messages yield NOTHING. That's a really shitty ROI on your time. If you want to fire off a few messages here and there do it ONLY on your designated swiping day. Hell I like to play the lottery now and then, but guys, if you haven't figured it, most women are getting hundreds of emails per day. It's almost a waste of your time to be on these platforms to begin with, but if you treat it as I'm saying, you keep your investment low. It doesn't hurt to let your line dangle out there for as long as you want. If you get a nibble, then great! Make a move. But the concept is the same here. We are trying to use the funnel and find the girls who actually want to interact with you. The MASS MAILING approach is just shit, and you know it. Believe me, women aren't stupid. She knows how to use the search function. If her interest level is anything above luke warm in you, she will do SOMETHING to let you know. Let her send out a signal. A wink, a like, a comment on your photo, OR OH MY GOD...A MESSAGE! Can you imagine!? Well, yes, it happens. Good for you when it does. She's making your job easier. Now go get it.
There's so much more to discuss here. Maybe later I will. If you really want to enter a level playing field, you will learn to approach women in the real world. But as long as your main means of meeting women is online, you've got to develop a sensible approach if you want to get better results and not just be frustrated all the time.
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