The Grandeur of it All

We all have those periods in life where we feel consumed. Stress, anxiety, emotional storming. These things all add up and certainly put a heavy weight on our souls. I think the thing that most of us would agree on is the sad fact that MOST of the time the sorts of things that are triggering this negativity to occur don't mean jack shit in the grand scheme of things. 

 I have found it helpful to have small mechanisms to serve as a mental/emotional levelers, or more specifically to remind us of this reality that in the great, grand, humongous universe that we live in, your woes are insignificant. 

The Dignity Exchange

Something we all deal with in life is the element of dignity exchange. This exchange occurs in many settings, but in my mind this bears particular pertinence in the matters of our professional life, and the relations that we have with our peers, both romantically and in the instance of friendships or family ties. At times we find ourselves exchanging a piece of our dignity to get what we want.

The internet will tell you what you want to hear...learn to listen to your within

 

I think there was a point in time where the internet might have actually had some more focused and expert advice on it. Or at least maybe it was easier to sift and navigate your way to the best answers. So much has changed though. The internet is littered with such a range of intelligence these days. Just roll with me here, the message of this article is something more. 

So many times, we go to the internet to try and find answers to our questions, expertise to guide us, or whatever under the sun that we are desiring to know. Of course we would, it's so easy. The internet does connect us instantly to billions of other minds in the snap of a finger. Surely there is some good in this. I'm not denying that. But you've got to be careful, right? 

The RIGHT mindset when you "cold approach" a woman...

Ah, the cold approach. One of the most challenging and nerve wracking things for us males to do. To walk up to a complete stranger and engage them in hopes for some meaningful moments that can translate into further contact and perhaps one day long down the line a substantive relationship. What a heavy thing to face. And needless to say, these things would be easy to do if success were a guarantee, but as we all well know, it is NOT. Furthermore, we know in the back of our minds how painful rejection can be. All these elements lead up to an intensive mental battle that must be overcome if we are to make the cold approach in the first place and execute it smoothly and present ourselves as best as we possibly can in this very awkward moment. After all, no matter how much that other person might be feeling you and no matter how well you present, the shit is just awkward. There's no two ways about it.

Your Loss?

Do you REALLY mean that when you say it? I mean, really, really, really deep down, feel that in your soul?

Rejection is a part of life. It just is. That job you really wanted. That hot romantic flame. That person you thought was your best friend. Public perception of your hard formed creation. All of them and then some will say to you at some point....Nah, you're not good enough for me. I'll pass. REJECTED. Ugh...a bullet hole right through your gut. That shit hurts.

This element of life is hard to face. One of the coping mechanisms we are taught to use is to respond with a quick and simple phrase. "Well, that's too bad. Your loss." It makes you feel good for a moment. But how many of you utter these words, then start feeling shitty again almost as soon as the words are done rolling off your tongue?

They can't just look good, they actually have to BE good to you too

 

This one is written from a male perspective. But the same principle could be applied for the ladies out there who might be reading this. For us men, you are all probably well aware that a woman's looks can be like kryptonite. Hell, even at times very strong willed men succumb to the undeniable powers that come from a woman whom they find irresistibly attractive. We all have our "type" and damn sure our moments of weakness.

For you ladies, let's touch on the alternative characteristics. Sure looks have something to do with your psychology, but more of your man kryptonite comes from his status/power/influence/charisma, whatever you want to call it.

Online Dating Strategy for Guys

 

Life isn't exactly fair for most guys in the online dating realm. Let's just be real, the playing field will NEVER be level in the sense that girls who date online will always have way more guys hitting them up than guys have girls hitting them up. It's just the way the numbers are. Deal with it.

What I am about to share with you is just one approach you can take to prevent burn out, frustration, and disappointments when it comes to your online dating. If you are reading this article you have probably already wasted countless hours of your life with online dating. Stop doing that. You need to get more efficient at this because, hopefully, you've got way more important shit in your life to be doing.

Duolingo on the Toilet

I have always sought out ways to learn new things, practice, or improve upon skills. There was a period of time where I was playing a lot of games on my cell phone. Mindless, stupid, time killers. Nothing else. I started thinking, what the heck am I doing? Why am I not using this time more productively. Instead of crushing imaginary cyber candies, why am I not learning something new or at least being productive? I decided to brush up on my foreign language skills. You know, something that actually has some value and can be used in the real world. Something that actually matters in my life? Ok great, I will now dedicate some small amount of time each day on my cell phone to doing just that.

Types of Friends to Get Rid Of

We've all got a few of 'em hangin' around. You're better off if you toss em in the trash:

You Get the Opposite of the Way You Act

 

I'm not gonna argue the right or wrong, debate the merits of each persons modus operandi, or try to convince anyone of the way that males and females "should" act in a relationship. I think in this present day and age, what would have previously been considered "traditional roles" in a romantic partnership seem to piss a lot of people off. So I'm not even gonna go there. People get so butt hurt so readily if you try to broadly attach any sorts of relationship behaviors to either sex. And honestly, that's really not what I am getting at in this article. So I am not going to use the words feminine or masculine at all. Let's just say, dominant and submissive. I'll leave it completely up to you to assign these words to whatever side of a relationship that you want.